From being independent to be totally dependent

On December 6, 2012, one of my employees, P, asked my help to do her open enrollment for the 2013 benefits election.  Prior completing the process, she is required to fill out the information of her beneficiary since I was the one who was typing the information in the computer for her, I complement her mother’s by saying oh your mother is still very young.  But her respond was not as I expected because she was telling me that her mother was not like me, her mother was always sick, her mother is crazy, her mother was telling her that the bad spirit was always try to come get her, she always tired, she always hearing things etc.  When I heard that, I was debating if I should talk to her about what I do or not.  So I let her talk more by asking her about her short marriage thinking that it may have something to do with what her mother was going through.

P started telling me about her marriage which was lasted only five months.  It was arranged marriage and the same with her older sister but according to her, her sister has better luck than her; her sister already has two children and still marriage.  According to her, it was not only her ex-husband who was giving her hard time but was also his mother.  After the wedding in California, she moved to Canada to be with her husband but five months later she returned to her parent in California.

After hearing the problem with her mother and her story I could not just keep quiet and not to try to extend my help.  I wanted to help but at the same time thinking that not knowing if she believes in exorcism and me being a manager I did not want to talk about this subject to my employee while on the clock.  At the end of her shift, after she clocked out to go home, I asked P about how long her mother has been sick and P said for a long time.  Her mother who was very independent now became a dependent.  Her mother used to very active, has three jobs, drove car back and forth from Hayward to Stockton alone but now she could not even drive car at all and she stays home everyday feeling sick and depressed.   After hearing more about her mother, I knew something was not right so I told her what I do on the side and I told her that with God’s help my husband and I had helped many people from different non-medical problems such as depression, problem sleeping, hearing things etc.  P did not think anyone can help her mother because her father had taken her mother to get help and had paid lots of money in trying to cure her mother to no avail.  I was sincere wanted to help so I told P that if I could see her mother, I would do some prayer for her to get better.  P didn’t think her mother would do it because she already tried to get cured and there seemed to be no one could help her.  She would feel a little bit better after each time the people tried to cure her but only lasted a few days then she was back feeling sick again.

Almost two years ago when P was just started working with me when she found out that I needed help to take my daughter in-law to the job fair, P volunteered by offering her help to pick up my daughter in-law from her home, took her to the job fair and waited at the job fair to take her back to her home.  At that time my daughter in-law just arrived from Egypt a week so she did not know how to take the public transportation or go anywhere alone yet.  And my daughter in-law got the job from that job fair and has been working at the same place since.  Actually I wanted to help P’s mother not because P had helped in before but remembering what P did for me made me wanted to try to cure her mother even more.