Q & A 81 – From KB in Southern Cal
“Salaam, do you have a phone number where I can reach you? I am located in Southern California and my family really needs your help. I am interested in your service and would like to speak to you. Thank you.” Submitted on 2013/10/08 at 1:12 am
I will continue to listen to it every night. My sister lives in Washington DC and I have forwarded your email to her. I really appreciate your help and would like to make a donation. Please let me know how I can do that.”
Thanks again, KB
On Monday May 12, 2014 at 6:58 PM – KB wrote:
“Salaam Sister, You helped me very graciously last year with ruqyah and it helped my family a lot. I sincerely appreciate your help. I have another request for you. I have a family member who has a very bad gambling problem. I tried so many different things to make him stop but nothing works. He is also attracted to other haraam things and I feel like the Shaytaan is constantly luring him and has a big control over him. Do you have any suggestions on what I should do? Wassalam, Komal” Submitted on On Monday, May 12, 2014 6:58 PM
On Wed, May 14, 2014 at 11:50 AM – ruqyah.net wrote:
Waalaikumussalam KB, Alhamdulillah I am very happy to hear that your family is OK now, MasyaAllah. As to your family member who is addicted to gambling and doing haram things, I believe, these are sickness which can only be cured by incresing his/her faith. Who is his friends or people whom he hang out with? Is he prays regularly? Helping him is not going to be a quick one because based on my experience if you are going to lecture him with Islam teaching what is good and what is bad is not going to work because the person is still influenced by syaitan’s work unless otherwise Allah swt gives him hidayah. What I would do if I were you, hang out with him often, you pray where he is around when its time to pray and be a role model for him but do not lecture him because lecturing him at this stage is not going to motivate him instead he is not going to be comfortable around you and will try to avoid seeing you or being with you. You have to be strong though because if you are not, he could influence you instead. Find a way to gradually changing his friends’ type and try to influence him to start changing his habits a little at a time. I know you can do it but again as I said earlier, it will not going to be easy because you need to have a full commitment and persistent on changing his behaviour – don’t forget to also ask Allah swt to give him hidayah. Hope this help and good luck OK, wassalam
On Wednesday May 14, 2014 at 1:46 PM – KB Wrote:
“Salaam thank you so much for your wise advice. You are right – I have been lecturing him and that is not accomplishing much. Instead I think we are growing apart from each other. This will require a lot of patience from me because I am so frustrated by I will try my best to be a role model and speak with actions rather than words. Once again, I sincerely appreciate your generosity and kindness. Thank you, KB”
On Wednesday, June 25, 2014 3:58 PM, KB wrote:
Salaam again. I am still struggling with the gambling problem. I started praying around him, and he prays too, but he has an addiction that he cannot control with gambling. No matter how much I beg him not to go, he still goes and does not care that this hurts me. I also started quran lessons and once a week a teacher comes and we practice our quran reading skills. What do I do? Do you have any more suggestions? I have no more energy for this gambling problem and feel like I should walk away from the relationship. Thank you for your time. Wassalaam, KB
On Wednesday, June 25, 2014 6:44 PM – ruqyah.net wrote:
Assalamualaikum KB, I believe this is a test for you too and it requires lots of patient. It is not going to be easy unless Allah swt gives him hidayah now and remember it has only been a little more than a month. On May 14, 2014 when last time you realized that you were going to be his role model etc and now a month later you are thinking of giving up. My advice to you is still the same as I mentioned a month ago so other than to be patient, make a doa for Allah swt give him hidayah soon, aamiiiin. Wassalam
On Sunday June 29, 2014 at 5:14 PM – KB wrote:
“Salaam yes you are right. I have to be patient and I am praying everyday that Allah give him hidayah. Thank you for your honesty and Ramadan Mubarak to you and your family. Wasalam.”
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